Women… Wrestling…?

I don’t mean for these posts to be getting critical and pessimistic and melancholy and all waily and ‘oh we’re all going to die.’ I honestly don’t think that. But I am stunned. Completely speechless. I was flipping through World magazine just a moment ago which I don’t usually do, but for some reason or another I was. And I read this article. To what an epitomy has our culture fallen…

Apparently recently the first girl was admitted to a wrestling competition, I think it was in Michigan. It doesn’t really matter where. The point of the article was "What the heck is a girl doing on a wrestling team? Train your boys not to go into a match even if that means disqualification." What a most fantastic understatement.

Everything I fight against in our culture, everything I despise about how women are treated, all is represented in this instance, and my heart is boiling. Disrepsect to women. How could it be more epitomized? Could it be more clear how far our culture has fallen? And the part that stings me most is that it’s all in the name of equality and rights; culturally this is probably seen as a great breakthrough for the rights of women: women have the right to do everything that men do and are no longer under the dominating rules of outdated and unfair Christian culture.

Our culture and society smashes women’s and girls’ hearts like oranges are smashed in an orange-juice making factory, and it won’t admit that it does it. In fact, it insists on pushing further and further down the path to their destruction, all the way blithely cheering that it has women’s ‘rights’ at heart. Men do not fill their proper positions in life, they shun their responsibilities, some of them excusing themselves because they don’t want to peeve some petty feminist extremist. Fathers fail their daughters, brothers their sisters, husbands their wives, pastors their women congregants…. failure, failure, failure. Again and again men do not lead, they do not take responsibility, they do not love, they do not protect, they do not cherish, they do not pray, they do nothing. They callously and stupidly treat girls and women as they treat men and boys.

Women get broken easily. I think if you ask any woman that, she will testify with me to this fact. And I see it and feel it everywhere I go… brokenness. And it is all the fault of a lack of responsibility and love on the part of men. Does it never occur to a man that he should love and cherish his wife? His daughter? That means constantly praying for them, dealing gently and sweetly, showing compassion, showing love in little things, being concerned and protective with their well-being, leading and guiding with gentleness and softness, being tender and companionable, always putting them above himself. That also, as seems to be completely overlooked or misunderstood by men, being the arrogant insensitive girl-playing things they are , NEVER putting them down, NEVER asserting power, domionion, or superiority over them, it means NEVER being harsh or physical with them, it means NEVER being sarcastic or poking fun at them in a derrogatory manner.

The problem stems from the fact that most men, even if they know they should be trying to, completely and utterly fail at living according to the standards I have set above. There is no respect for women in our culture. No sense of chivalry or leadership. Our culture is running with the blood of broken hearts while the remedy is spat upon contemptuously as old-fashioned, out-dated, and derrogatory to women.

What on earth, might I be so presumptuous to ask, is a girl doing in a wrestling tournament? I would not, on pain of death, wrestle a woman, let alone a girl. It disgusts me to think that some might respond to my question indignantly, saying ‘How derrogatory of you! Are you saying women are weak? You are so disdainful of them that you would refuse to match yourself against their strength?’ Please, do not think I’m insinuating anything of the sort. My refusal to wrestle is not because I think women are inferior, but because I cherish them and I feel it is my duty to love and protect them, not to fight against them. I have no desire to prove my superiority in strength or stamina against a woman (or even a man for that matter). I desire to help, to care for, to lead. I am fuming at the thought that our culture has so little respect for women, that men care so little for the well being and greater-good of women, that they do not desire to love and cherish them but to fight against them, that they care so little for the hearts they break with their words and actions… no wonder we are stuck in the refuse pile we are. (And all that without even *touching* on the sexual element of women wrestling men…)

That being said, I don’t mean to imply that women do not have their major shortcomings culturally, and I don’t mean to imply that our culture doesn’t disrespect men just as it does women. But I do feel strongly that the root of the problem lies in the lack of responsibility men take. Not to say there aren’t other major flaws that must of necessity be dealt with. So don’t take this as exclusive. I am merely fuming over the article I read.

7 Responses to “Women… Wrestling…?”

  1. Darian says:

    Hmm….
    So I have a question. Is wrestling different from any other sport that women participate in? Is it different from martial arts? And is there a problem with women cultivating strength? I realize that this is not your point, and I do get what you’re saying, it’s just connected to a lot of other things in my mind….things I don’t quite have an answer for.

  2. Sarah H. says:

    interesting…I like what you said about women though. They are easily broken, and they love it when men show courtesy and kindness to them.

  3. Shannon Odell says:

    Caleb,

    I *really* appreciated what you said here–what you said about how you believe women should be treated. We need more guys in this world that think the way you do. :)

  4. Santeyio says:

    lol, well, I’m glad to hear that I was a least a little on track with my emotional outburst… thanks Sarah and Shannon :)

  5. Amy says:

    Thank you Caleb, I appreciate that too, and I wish more of the boys I knew would think like that.

    I know a girl who wrestles(wouldn’t be surprised if it’s the same one.) and she was saying that most of the guys barely wrestled and if they did throw her they were helping her stand up and making sure she was all right. I don’t think she realized that it was contrary to all the men had been taught(it was a Christian school I think) to be wrestling with her.
    On the other hand there were some men who wrestled as hard as they could, because they didn’t want a girl to beat them.

  6. Santeyio says:

    Thanks Amy :)

  7. Raine says:

    bravo! an excellent post! this shows us that there are still some descent men out there. Im glad some guy read the bible!

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